Dating advice and tips: How do I move on from a cheater?
by TheFirstAndForeverLove
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Dating advice and tips: How do I move on from a cheater?
I’m newly single after breaking up with my ex-fiancé. He cheated on me, and I know that I don’t deserve him, so I’ve moved on. Unfortunately, I’m scared to give my heart again. I’m ready to start dating, but I just feel like men all want one thing: sex… and that I’ll be tricked into thinking every man who commits to me, is only wasting my time and his. What do I do?
He said:
The first thing you need to do is to not judge all men the same. Take the men you date on a case by case basis. Try not to bring your old drama into your new relationship. Take it slow and get to know the person, If he likes you then he will wait for sex. Men are scared of being hurt just like women are scared to be hurt. Don’t go into the first date looking for a relationship, like I said take it slow and you will know if he is the one. Make sure you are drama free be for you go into your new relationship. It’s not his fault what all the other guys did. Also don’t go giving your heart to a guy too fast, sex is not love and dating is not a relationship. You will know when its real because true love doesn’t hurt.
She said: Honestly, you are not ready to date yet. If you are not ready to give your heart or take a chance, it’s not time. You were engaged and your trust was betrayed. Ending an engagement is hard enough, but under those circumstances it’s even more difficult. Take some time to get to know yourself again and reconnect with you. Once you are comfortable and feel like you can give a guy a chance without holding things your ex did against him or like you could give him a fair shot, then you are ready.
Once you get there, the best way to find somebody who does not just want sex is to A. know what you are looking for and settle for nothing less and B. take things slowly. You don’t have to rush things, let them go at a nice, comfortable and natural pace. And if all he wants is sex, you don’t want him anyway and that’s no loss to you.
Let yourself heal and take things slow and keep your eyes open. Good luck!
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