Dating for Men: Guide to Having a Great First Date
by TheFirstAndForeverLove
Filed under Dating Tips, Dating for Men
Some First Date Advice for Men
So, you are the lucky one who’s going to shortly on his first date! Well, you must surely have got a lot of first date advice already, mostly from your friends who consider them to be professionals in the subject of understanding the female psyche. However, the fact is that there is nothing as enigmatic as the female mind. There’s nothing like a foolproof plan for a first date. But there are some ways in which you can try to make it a winner. Here’s some first date advice that you should definitely not miss out on.
Don’t Put On or Show Off
Some people might have suggested that you speak about yourself in a positive light, probably even to the extent of bragging. However, that will certainly not work. Even if you have something to really brag about, most women are put off by guys who speak a lot about themselves. You need to let your achievements speak for themselves, don’t show them off to her blatantly. It is best to talk less and listen more when you are on a date.
Treat Her as Important
The most crucial thing is that you give due importance to her. In conversation, give her an ample opportunity to speak about herself, her family, her friends, even her dog if she has one. Take care of the little details that show you care for her. Opening the door for her, asking her to sit before you in the restaurant and following impeccable table manners, etc. are things that most women appreciate.
Give Her Some Original Memories
Your first date shouldn’t be just talk, talk, talk! Think about something that could make this memorable. Give her a great gift when she meets you. Go someplace where she has never been before. Then that place will be forever stored in her mind as the place she discovered when she was with you. You need to share such new things; they are what will help in taking your relationship ahead.
One of the biggest mistakes that men make is also by its own nature one of the most common. The mistake that I’m referring to is coming across as an average guy. To truly captivate a woman and stand out in her mind to the point where she thinks of you as a king, you must make it a point as early as possible to be different from most of the boring guys that approach her every day.
The best way to do that is to avoid playing the “20 questions” game at all costs. As humans we’re trained to get to know people by asking the same old boring questions. We make inquiries about their hobbies, about their likes and dislikes, about their occupation, and all kinds of other details. The problem lies in the fact that we’re all conditioned to ask these exact same questions, so if you participate in the “20 questions” game, you will invariably come across as average.
Chances are great that she will be the one to ask these questions if you don’t. So what do you do then? You use these questions to immediately establish yourself as the polar opposite of an average guy; you should dodge the answers, and give only playful responses in return (at first). This tactic not only instantly establishes you as a special guy, it also exudes what is probably the single most attractive trait to a woman; the element of mystery; and with it, suspense, and anticipation.