First Date Tips: What if you have a bad first date?

What makes a bad first date? What to do if first date is bad

That last date was a train wreck, but you still aren’t sure what went wrong. As you walk to the door, grateful that it’s finally time to say goodnight, it’s all coming back to you. You go inside, slide into your sweat pants, and think “Man, that date was just terrible”. So, what made it so bad? Sometimes, when we are out, we forget about the little things, and those things can make for a very catastrophic dating experience. So often, you read about what makes an awesome date, or what things you can do to spark up a new romance, but very seldom do we hear about the things that make for a bad date. So, here they are for you in black and white: lists of things that will make a good date go sour, and ways to handle them tactfully.

Your date won’t stop talking:
Although we want to be able to converse with our new friends, if we are unable to get a word in edgewise, we will feel preached at. This makes for a terrible date mood, as the non-talker will feel overpowered and become bored. If this happens, you can try to make a joke of it, and see if maybe they were just nervous. Many people ramble out of discomfort, so mention it and see if it changes.

Your date is loud and obnoxious in an inappropriate time/place:
Oh, gosh. This one can be downright aggravating. It is hard to be out and feel like you need to curb your date’s behavior. At the same time, you don’t want it to continue, so politely mention the venue, and hope for the best.

Your date has terrible breath:
This one is at least usually easy to fix. Always carry gum in your purse or jacket pockets when you are going to be out. When you get a chance, take one out, pop it in your own mouth first, and then offer a piece from the pack to your date. They will probably take one out of sheer courtesy, and freshness will be your reward.

There are lots of things that could go wrong on a first date. Many of them will have you running for the door, but if the behavior is not all that bad, try to mention it first and really give the person an opportunity the correct the offense. If the behavior doesn’t improve, do what so many girls already do. Excuse yourself to the rest room, call one of your best friends and arrange a bailout call. This is where you call up your best friend; tell them to call you back in five minutes. Walk back to the table, sit down, act like all is fine, and wait for the call. When it comes, act like it’s an emergency, apologize, and catch a cab home or have the friend come and pick you up. Either way, you will have escaped your date disaster.

First Date Tips: What Should I Ask on the First Date?

First Date: best questions to ask

When you are out on a date, it may be difficult to keep the conversation flowing. The combination of your nerves and your desire to give a good first impression is enough to tie anyone’s tongue. Although it is understandable for you to be nervous, a silent date is not typically a good date, so we really need to get your conversational ball rolling. Look below for a few good questions to ask on a first date. I’ll tell you what the good questions are, and then I’ll explain to you why they work so well.
What do you like to do for fun?
This is a great question to ask on a first date because it allows you to get to know the person better, as well as maybe catch a glimpse of hobbies you have in common.
What is your dream job?
Asking about your date’s dream job not only gets them talking about themselves, it will also tell you quite a bit about what types of things they are after in life. It will help you to grasp what they want.
What was your most embarrassing moment?
This question is good to ask for a few reasons. First, it might make your date laugh just to think of that moment. Whether or not they answer will tell you lots about their sense of secure self. Also, it will allow the two of you to bond over moments when you were less than perfect. That always opens the door for the tow of you to actually be less than perfect together on your date. It will help you both relax.
Who is the most important person in your life?
This question is an excellent choice, because while it doesn’t appear to be obnoxiously intrusive, it really can show you a lot about what matters to the person. It shows where their priorities lie, and will tell you how highly they value their loved ones.
There are lots of great questions you could ask on a first date. The most important thing to remember, as always is to be you. Try to relax, keep it lighthearted, and have some fun getting to know your new friend.